Hey ya’ll! I’m Dell and I’m so excited that you stopped by my little corner! She’s One Hot Mess Mama is one phrase I definitely have referred to myself over the past 5 years and even today. At 26 years old I found myself divorced, a newly single parent with a 7 month old beautiful baby girl and a full-time working mom (working 12-13 hour shifts 3-4 days a week). Oh boy was I the epitome of a hot mess mama!
Having to go through the emotional struggles of my own personal life while at the same time raising my baby girl full time on my own and having to leave her for work for such long hours each time was definitely a challenge. I often found myself bawling my eyes out of frustration or just because it was simply hard to try to balance being a mom and working all on my own. The first 3 years, my life was simply being mommy to my little Penelope and a full time working nurse. There were definitely moments when I felt I was running around like a headless chicken trying to do everything all at one time. I was trying to keep up with my mama friends, trying to prove I had it all down and put together just like every mama out there but let me tell you, I certainly did not! Haha!
I don’t know about you, but I’ve always had this idea in my head how “momming” was supposed to be like. I thought it was going to be exactly how the movies portray the perfect mom. I was going to be that mom who was always put together, a body that bounced back like I never had a baby, I was going to be able to make all of my daughter’s baby food at home and my daughter was going to be easy peezy! We’ll have all of these mommy and me classes together and I’ll still have plenty of time to myself. Ha! Yeah right!
I was the mama waking up a little late in mornings to get ready for work because I was up all night with Penny, forgetting that I had planned to get up early to wash my hair since I had to rush through my shower the night before. So a quick ponytail was all that would work (never noticing that I had puffs snacks sometimes dried snot still stuck in my hair), a quick face wash and brushing of my teeth, throw on my work clothes and packing my makeup bag to work in a span of 30 min. In the midst of getting myself ready, I was multi-tasking with getting Penny ready for daycare, feeding her breakfast, packing her lunch and making sure we both get to where we need to be on time. I wish I could say it worked out for me every time, but I’d certainly be lying. Instead I was the mama that would end up forgetting something or forgetting to do something, whether it’s her lunch or mine, her knapsack, the diaper bag, getting her mommy and me class times right, forgetting which day of the week it was or which day I made plans with family and friends. Some days were perfect and some were definitely a challenge not being on top of everything the way all my other mama friends were. I started to question whether or not I was being a good mama, my child is healthy, sheltered and loved beyond belief. But I still felt that I was lacking in certain areas of this role because I just felt like I couldn’t seem to get it together. I seriously always felt like I was a hot mess majority of the time.
As I was learning and growing into my mama role, slowly starting to share my hotmess mama life with a few close friends, I started to learn that I was not alone. Whether single or a coupled, we all share the same challenges of being a parent, doing our best to do everything for our children regardless of how hard it is sometimes, while at the same time masking the challenges we face and thinking we’re the only ones going through it, but in reality are all one hot mess mamas and that’s okay.
Now as a mama of two, nothing has changed haha! Still a hotmess mama over here! This time with a 6 year old going on 16 and an 8 month old boss baby, whom both control my entire life at the moment haha! Mama life of two is definitely crazy and sometimes I have to admit overwhelming, but I must say, I am loving every moment of it.
This little corner of mine, is to share my daily mama life with you all, shed some light on some experiences from my mama friends, share how I keep up with myself, family and friends while at the same living that mama life, one hot mess at a time. Enjoy!
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